Kiki van de Laar dies after documenting cancer battle: 'It was my time to let go and find peace, which I have'

24 November 2013 9:48 AM

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Kiki van de Laar dies after documenting cancer battle: 'It was my time to let go and find peace, which I have'

SHE shared her courageous cancer battle with thousands over the internet and decided to say goodbye the same way.

Kiki van de Laar, an Adelaide-based mother-of-two, died early Saturday morning, less than a year after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

The 27-year-old, of Huntfield Heights, in the southern suburbs, requested husband Rogier use her Facebook account to post a heartbreaking, final goodbye she had finished just days earlier.

"Do not be sad, but this morning, on Saturday, I passed on to a better place, without any pain," read the message that was posted in the hours following her death.

"My body was broken but my spirit was still strong. It was time to let go and find peace, which I have.

"I am truly grateful as I have experienced true happiness and fulfilled all my dreams. Live in the moment and enjoy life."

She died six days shy of her daughter Tatum's second birthday on Friday, while son Mick turns 4 in January.

Mrs van de Laar, who was diagnosed in January, used her skill as a professional photographer to capture powerful images few make public during cancer treatment.

This included a shot of her bare, bandaged chest, taken just hours after a mastectomy in March, shaving her hair as the ravages of chemotherapy took over and candid snapshots from the operating table.

Last night, Mr van de Laar, 33, told The Advertiser how his wife was happy, and stoic, right up until she died.

"In her last full sentence, she sat up from the hospital bed, with a grin from ear-to-ear and said 'I'm the happiest person in the word'," he said.

"That sums Kiki up perfectly. She was cheerful, lively and selfless no matter what was going on," he said.

"She didn't set out to touch all these people, but just through being herself, she's left behind such a huge legacy."

The weekend before her death the family holidayed in Naracoorte and were confident that a planned trip to see family and friends in their native Holland, scheduled for later this month, would still go ahead.

"If Kiki wanted to do something, she would achieve it. She had no regrets and I'm happy about that," Mr van de Laar said.

Also included in Mrs van de Laar's final Facebook post was a quote attributed to Marcus Aurelius.

"Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them."


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